Resilience is not only a part of all of us but also an acquired skill,
therefore can be learnt & also improved upon
What is Resilience?
Resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties, easily described as follows:
- Bouncing back after difficult times
- Dealing with challenges and still holding your head up
- Giving things a go and/or trying your best
- Being strong on the inside
- Being able to cope with what life throws at you and able to shrug it off
- Standing up for yourself
When faced with a tragedy, natural disaster, health concern, relationship, work, or school problem, resilience is how well a person can adapt to the events in their life. A person with good resilience has the ability to bounce back more quickly and with less stress than someone whose resilience is less developed.
Everybody has resilience. It’s just a question of how much and how well you put it to good use in your life. Resilience doesn’t mean the person doesn’t feel the intensity of the event or problem. Instead, it just means that they’ve found a pretty good way of dealing with it more quickly than others.
Everyone can learn to increase their resilience abilities. Like any human skill, learning greater resilience is something that you can do at any age, from any background, no matter your education or family relationships. All you need to do in order to increase your resilience is have the willingness to do so, learn more about it via search engines, or with the help of a trained behaviour specialist, such as a Life Coach.
How can you help yourself increase your resilience?
There are many different ways you can increase resilience.
Having supportive relationships in your life with your family and friends seems to be an important foundation. Good, positive relationships help a person with reassurance and encouragement when times get tough, and seem to help support a person’s ability to rebound more quickly after a difficult event or problem in their life.
Relationships are not just important within the family, but outside the family too. Having a strong network of friends (and not just “Facebook friends”) is a valuable component of building better resilience. Strong social networks appear to be a key foundational building block for this skill to increase in your life.
Which is why our own support/friendship group Fit Me In can help, especially if you are not fortunate enough to have family or strong social connections.
There are other factors that can help you increase your resilience as well, including having, improving or trying some of the following:
- Having a positive view of yourself (self-image) and confidence in your strengths and abilities (self-knowledge)
- Being able to regularly make realistic plans, and then being able to regularly carry out your plans
- Being able to effectively and in a healthy manner manage your feelings and impulses
- Having really good communication skills, or actively working to improve them
- Having really good problem solving skills, or again actively working to improve them
The above are just a few of the areas where a person can work on in order to build better resilience. If you feel you need a helping hand, please do get in touch!
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